It’s very painful, but very simple.
Someone hurt you using sex as their weapon. And it changed you.
They hurt you. That is true. But how you feel and think about it now is what keeps hurting you.What they did was wrong and you have a right to be angry. However, the thoughts and feelings you have about yourself now are unfair and untrue. Whether it happened to you as a child or an adult, the memory lives on in you like it was yesterday.
It doesn’t matter how it happened:
· Family sexual abuse (incest)
· Ongoing abuse or one-time assault
· Partner or Spousal Abuse
· Friend/s you thought you could trust
· Date Rape
· At a bar or party
· Campus Sexual Assault
· Frat party
· Stranger rape
· Gang rape
· Drunk, on drugs, or completely sober
The “how” doesn’t matter, but the way it happened and who did it can create different meanings and feelings for you now
You may experience:
· Invasive thoughts about the assault or abuse
· Overwhelming feelings of anger, sadness, hurt, hopelessness
· Not able to study, focus, go to class or work, enjoy friends
· Loss of trust in others because it was a family member, partner, or spouse
· Drug/alcohol use, cutting or burning, eating disorder, or other self-harm
· Repeating sexual thoughts and behaviors
· Wondering if it was your fault
· Wondering why you didn’t fight or try to get away
· Wondering if you should report it or not
· Treated badly by law enforcement or at court
· Felt aroused or orgasmed during it
· Just wanting to enjoy sex again
Using a combination of talk, sex and healing therapy techniques, along with new ideas I’ve developed, we will change your understanding of what happened, reconnect with your body and mind, and free yourself from the past you are living with today.
All it takes is making the decision to not live this way anymore. Put aside all the hurt and shame, just for a moment, and reach out.
Contact me right now and simply say:
I’m waiting to help you find your joyous, worthy, and sexually empowered life.